Being Visible Comes With a Price
When I decided to share more of myself online — my body, my style, my truth — I knew I was stepping into something vulnerable.
But nothing fully prepares you for the flood of messages, questions, assumptions, and sometimes just plain ignorance.
Especially when you have something different.
In my case, it’s my chest. Yes, I have three breasts.
And no, I’m not here to explain it over and over again like I owe the world an answer.
Still, the internet has a way of putting your difference under a magnifying glass. And I’ve had to learn how to protect my peace while staying visible.
Curiosity Is Human, But My Boundaries Are Sacred
I understand curiosity.
If I weren’t me, I might have questions too.
But the difference is this: you don’t owe strangers your story.
I used to answer every DM, every comment, every “is that real?”
Now, I don’t.
I share what I choose, when I choose. I educate when I feel strong enough. I open up when I’m ready — not when others demand it.
That boundary is what protects the part of me that still needs softness.
Some Comments Sting — And That’s Okay
Even now, with all the confidence I’ve built, I won’t lie — some comments hurt.
Not the obvious hate, I’ve learned to ignore that.
It’s the ones that try to be subtle. The ones wrapped in curiosity, but laced with judgment.
Things like:
- “You’re brave for posting that.”
- “Is it photoshopped?”
- “What does it feel like?”
- “Do people stare at you in real life?”
Sometimes I laugh. Sometimes I block.
Sometimes I cry. And that’s okay too.
I’ve Built a Filter — Not for My Photos, But for My Energy
Before I open my apps, I check in with myself.
Am I grounded?
Am I posting because I want to connect — or because I feel I have to prove something?
If the answer doesn’t feel right, I pause.
I protect the parts of me that the internet doesn’t see.
Turning Curiosity Into Confidence
Here’s the truth:
I don’t want to hide my body. But I also don’t want to spend my life defending it.
So instead, I focus on what I can control:
- My tone
- My message
- My boundaries
- My self-worth
And I remind myself — every single time I post — that I am not weird, shocking, or strange.
I am rare. And rare is beautiful.
Let Them Wonder — I’ll Keep Living
Not everyone will understand you.
Some will project, some will stare, some will comment.
But that says everything about them — and nothing about your worth.
I’ve learned to stay open, without staying exposed.
To keep sharing, without giving myself away.
To stay soft, while still being strong.
👉 Follow me on Instagram: @kalyaunpetittrucenplus to see how I share on my own terms — unapologetic, unfiltered, and always real.